I refuse to be Plan B

"I refuse to be plan B," says a friend. Do you feel that way too?

Have you come across situations where you knew you were the fallback option for your buddies, only cause their plan A couldn't make it?

It makes sense when you are given a heads-up that they have already made plans previously. But what if you knew you were being prioritise over something else although your request came ahead of the other party?

Example:

You asked your friend if he/she was available for dinner on Day X. He/she doesn't confirm on their availability. By the time you follow up, he/she tells you that unfortunately they have plans for the day already.

THE BEST PART IS - You knew your request came earlier!

Fine you get angry/annoyed/disappointed.. but the awkward part comes when your friend's plans get cancelled and they come back to you saying, "Hey my plans got cancelled, do you wanna do dinner?".........

Will you say yes to be being plan B?

Another Chapter

First week into another chapter of life. It feels so amazing that it has been 3 years since I have graduated from school. Another period of adjustment, getting use to a new environment and also learning new things. There's a positive vibe though, and I'm happy that I chose to step out of my comfort zone. Time will tell if it's the right choice, but hey.. I guess experiencing new things will only be a step further in growth. 

On a random note, just today I was reminded of how insensitivity of words can be hurtful. 

Mid Year Review

1. Reduce body fat % to below 25%

- This is definitely not done.

2. Reduce weight to below 75kg

- This has been completed, pretty happy. I think my weight is about 73/4 now. Trying to push it lower by maintaining a healthier diet and keeping up with exercise.

3. Complete reading at least 2 books

- Not done yet, gotta start forcing myself to finish the books that I have started.

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In other news, half of 2017 have flown by in a flash. Changes coming up: End of programme soon, new employment. Hope the second half of 2017 will be good to me.

New Year 2017

Some goals for the year (work in progress):

1. Reduce body fat % to below 25%

2. Reduce weight to below 75kg

3. Complete reading at least 2 books

Friendships: 14 years and counting

As we grow older, a little wiser, we come to realise that the only people that remain beside us are a handful of close friends, rolling along with us on the waves of life. As I celebrate another birthday with these bunch of people, it's a very "frightening" thought that I've known them for nearly 14 years.

When I was younger, I've always thought, "Wow, it'll be great to have a great network of friends to hang out with, where I can pop on outings, party, drink, eat, go on holidays with...."

But lately, as I see everyone around me settling down into happily ever after... I've come to realise, especially when I start thinking about my own happily ever after, who are the people whom I'll be really happy to see on that special day. Off the top of my head, it struck me that there are only a handful of specific people (whom I have encountered throughout the various chapter of my life) that I do really call my close friends.

That's not to say that I don't care about my other friendships, I really in fact do. But the truth is that not everyone whom I use to be really close to, can be considered a close friend today. And vice versa people I once hardly talk to, have become better friends due to various circumstances. I thank God for every friend I've met in my life, every encounter that made me who I am today. If life was fair, I'll love to keep in contact with every single one of them, and talk about everything under the sun, deep into the night.. But unfortunately life isn't fair, and I'm sorry that I've seen many good friends come and go.

As I cross over into true adulthood, as conversations turn from studies, parties and dating into marriage, houses and career, I hope and pray that God will continue to bless me with these steadfast friendships; and also to use me to be a blessing to them.

The 10th Month

In the blink of an eye, it's now the 10th month into my new job. New friends made, new environment, new job. Couldn't thank God enough for giving me such a wonderful, supportive team. Here's to a splendid rest of my 2 year programme.

For some reason I just cannot get it out of my mind.. I don't know why I'm so affected by it. Do I take friendships too seriously? A case of expectation > reality.

A New Beginning

And so it begins; with a thumping heart, a whirling mind & a largely positive perception.